Hi, I’m Pam. Person, parent, periodic professional, pretty dependable partner to R.
R has early onset Alzheimer’s disease. These writings are my musings on life with Alzheimer’s disease in the house. The musings are primarily for my personal benefit. I enjoy the writing process, I feel better for it. Of course in my fantasies I become wildly popular and people flock to read, comment and support my writings. We form an amazing, smart and funny community. We solve all the problems of dealing with lost keys and misplaced dishes. To add perspective I also fantasize about being able to rock climb, run 26 miles and, most of all, becoming Helen Mirren when I grow up.
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Early in my journey with R and his Early Onset Alzheimer’s disease I would spend time and energy in sorrow. I would think of how things had been, and how I thought life should be at my age. The lapses in judgment, memory, and logic would really get me down.
I have started to focus on and record memories that have been enjoyable and foundational in our relationship. In the process I have discovered a few things: 1) These musings help strengthen the bond I have to R in a positive way – reminding me of why we are here together. 2) I am much more positive toward almost everything, and therefore less stressed. 3) The impact of the dementia-induced behaviors is minimized. After all, what is a table set only with spoons by someone who kept you safe on a mountaintop?